Handling Depression

Understanding Breakdown

Avoiding Burn-Out

What is Burn-Out?

Typically it will occur in hard working, hard driven people, who become emotionally, psychologically or physically exhausted. You are at risk of burnout where:

• you find it difficult to say 'no' to additional commitments or responsibilities
• you have been under intense and sustained pressure for some time
• your high standards make it difficult to delegate to assistants
• you have been trying to achieve too much for too long
• you have been giving too much emotional support for too long

Symptoms of Burn-Out

• A feeling of lack of control over commitments
• An incorrect belief that you are accomplishing less
• A growing tendency to think negatively
• Loss of a sense of purpose and energy
• Increasing detachment from relationships. This may cause further conflict and stress, adding to the problem.

Avoiding Burn-Out

You can avoid mental burn-out by ensuring that what you do remains fun: there is a limit to your mental energy that you should respect. As you get better at what you do, people may want increasing amounts of your time, and will rely on you more and more. It is easy for commitments to get bigger: people tend to be quite happy to consume other peoples mental resources without worrying about the consequences. You must learn to say 'No' to commitments that you do not want to take on - otherwise you will be in severe danger of burning out as you become unhappy with your situation.

If you are in Danger of Burning Out...

• Re-evaluate your goals and prioritise them
• Evaluate the demands placed on you and see how they fit in with your goals
• Identify your ability to comfortably meet these demands.
• If you are over-involved, reduce the commitments that are excessive
• If people demand too much emotional energy, become more unapproachable and less sympathetic. Involve other people in a supportive role. You owe it to yourself to avoid being bled dry emotionally.
• Learn stress management skills
• Examine other areas in your life that are generating stress, such as work or family, and try to solve problems and reduce the stress
• Get the support of your friends and family in reducing stress
• Ensure that you are following a healthy lifestyle:
  • Get adequate sleep and rest to maintain your energy levels
  • Ensure that you are eating a healthy, balanced diet - bad diet can make you ill or feel bad.
  • Get adequate regular aerobic exercise
  • Limit your caffeine and alcohol intake
• Perhaps develop alternative activities such as a relaxing hobby to take your mind off problems
• Acknowledge your own humanity: remember that you have a right to pleasure and a right to relaxation

Late Stages of Burn-Out

If You Have Burned Out...

You may, however, find that you have absolutely no interest in continuing with what you are doing. In this case it may be best to drop it altogether. If you are the sort of person who has burned out, i.e. highly motivated and hard driving, then a complete change of direction may be appropriate. It is very likely that you will find another area in which you will excel. You will discover that you are only demotivated and listless in the area in which you have burned out.